In this day and age, our body, mind, and soul needs the kind of rest that is free from the mindset of over performing, free from keeping up with the façades presented online, free from overall feelings of inadequacy inspired by our inability to commit to the ideals of others. We need the kind of rest that is born in the present and breeds satisfaction; the kind that multiplies our joy and takes us out of the competition.

Today we are talking about the importance of rest for the body, the mind, and the soul, because rest in all three of these areas is vital to the process of coming back from flat.

So often in this day and age people are on a mission to do more and be more. Like the busier we are, the more important we feel; like the more productive we are, the more valuable we seem. We run more errands, do more exercises, accumulate more things. Do and get, do and get.

On top of all of this, many of us are striving to compete with the façades people present online. How many times have we been left with our mouths, literally, open when a couple who appears online to have the perfect life and relationship split up? Meanwhile, we’re over here exhausting ourselves trying to create some semblance of a life that matches up to their magical online image? How defeating is this? To feel like other people can attain this level of so-called happiness but it is unachievable for us?

There is all of this, and then there’s the Pinterest worthy birthday parties for our kids, and the travel magazine worthy vacations and photographs we must take. There is the rescuing of a dog versus the buying of one, and the growing of our own food, as well as the composting of it.

I don’t know about you, but I have never felt so guilty to use a paper towel in my life!

What would happen if we just stopped the hamster wheel?

What would happen if we took a second to acknowledge that we can be some of these things, but that we are not expected to be ALL of these things? We can’t put our energy into EVERYTHING, we need to establish OUR personal thing.

What would happen if we unsubscribed to the overperforming mindset and focused on protecting our body, mind, and soul?

I think I know what happens when we try to stop. We feel guilty, like we’re a bad person, like we’re even letting our generation down.

And, guilt is so huge. Guilt causes us to feel restless and it steals us of our peace. It steals us of our ability to be able to just exist in the present moment, and where are we if we’re not in the present moment?

Come down a rabbit hole with me for a minute. If we are not living right now in this present moment, then we are either living in the past or we are living in the future. Let’s dive deeper on this. A Brazilian motivational speaker by the name Junia Bretas suggests that if our mind is focused on the past, we are living with regret and depression, and if our mind is focused on the future, we are living with worry and anxiety.

In the spirit of helping us to truly rest our body, mind, and spirit, let’s walk through this together. What are we thinking about from the past? Maybe a relationship that ended? Maybe words we’ve spoken that we can’t take back? Maybe a parenting decision? Maybe a job we left? A home we sold or never purchased?

How does it make us feel to focus on these regrets? Does it bring us down? Make us sad? Prevent us from moving forward because we don’t want to feel like this again? But, if this is something that makes us feel so horrible, why are we living in it? Why are we staying there? Why are we wearing our mind out daily with these regrets?

On the other hand, what is it we worry about for the future? Do we fear never finding love? Do we fear losing our job? Do we fear getting a disease? Do we fear death? No wonder why our body is not resting, we are too filled with anxiety.

Here are some ideas I would like you to put into your toolbox.

First, 99% of what we worry about never occurs. (Test that. Think about the last ten, or more, things you worried about. Did they happen?)

Second, our only reality is the present, and all we can control is this very moment.

And third, we can train our brains to live in the present, this is in our control.

A simple way to get started living in the present right this second is to be grateful. (Example: I am grateful for this gorgeous day, this warm cup of coffee, and the puppy snuggled on my lap.) Nothing else matters in this moment of appreciation.

Try this and pay attention as the energy inside your body changes. You will feel your body fill with positive energy and THAT is what we want more of. So often we discount the importance of this feeling. But it’s important because it is joy and positivity, and if you’ve ever heard of the law of attraction, then you know that what we put out into the world comes back to us multiplied. Put joy and positivity out into the world, let THAT be what comes back, instead of regret or anxiety.

One final thought before we end our time together today: Do you remember back in your childhood how hard it was to function the day after a sleepover or when you spent half the night on the phone with a friend? I don’t know about you, by I was miserable and I couldn’t function. What if we have gotten so used to feeling this way, so used to functioning at half-capacity?

What if we are functioning at half-capacity while trying to create a life that’s based on someone else’s half-truth?

Instead, what if we slowed life down, took time to discover who we are and what’s important to us and our family, and just lived that way? What if we were confident in those decisions? What if we were satisfied with our life choices?

I can only share with you my specific experience in what I did to get my head and heart back in the game after losing site of my passion. I can only say that I made a decision to make serious change in my life. I barred excuses, I took responsibility, and I held myself accountable.

What we at Motivate Me! have always tried to do for our audience is share the experiences of others in order to give you tools to make change in your own life. Each of us has a choice. We can sit back and negate why something would work for someone else and not ourselves, or we can look at what worked for someone else and massage it into a form that will work for us.

The choice is ours.

I am going to leave you with some truth talk from me to you: If we don’t just stop, just rest, just be introspective, just figure out our unique perspective on life and create our family and our world around it, we will just continue to mimic others and we will never find the kind of peace that lives in the present. The kind of peace that brings with it true satisfaction and happiness. We each deserve this, we all do, and what easier way to start than with rest?

I give you permission to rest.

Remember, you Motivate Me!

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We are in control of our mental and physical space, but so often we surrender these spaces to others. In this episode learn how to prepare mental and physical space where you can value time with self, establish freedom of thought, identify negative self-talk, and receive creative ideas.

If you are serious about wanting to get more out of your life, like, you know you are just FLAT, and you have made the DECISION to feel more, accomplish more, be more… then you’ve been paying attention to the steps I’ve been lying out here for you:

1. Making Yourself a Priority (take your time learning how to do this)

2. Taking on a 30-Day Challenge

3. Adding Daily Stretches

So what’s next? Next comes, Preparing Your Mental and Physical Space.

Here is what I mean when I say, “mental space”: Mental space is the space we hold in our mind for determining our perceptions of the world, for establishing our personal values and beliefs. It’s the precious key to our well-being, and it’s where our creativity stems.

Our mental space needs to be nurtured, and finding the time to do that is often low on the priority list. That’s why we call this time here together on Motivate Me!, “Me! Time.” And that is much of what you are doing when you spend time here with us: you are nurturing your mental space.

It’s important for us to see this time as valuable. Valuable enough for us to schedule this time. As in, put it on a calendar as we would anything else we find important, like taking a loved one to an appointment.

The first thing I had to do when digging deep to recover myself during quarantine was kick everyone else out of my mental space. Other people don’t belong here. In the third episode of this season I give you techniques on how to make yourself a priority. Our headspace is where that begins – it is where everything begins. Episode 534, Making Yourself a Priority, is an important episode, if you haven’t already listened.

This is why preparing your mental space is so important because we need to have this one most important thing: FREEDOM OF THOUGHT.

So many of us let others or the course of life just bump us along. We follow the leader of our tribe and do and believe the way others expect of us. Many of us don’t stop this flow to go against the current and form our own opinions. Many of us don’t realize we’re even doing that.

When I was 18-years-old, I moved from New Jersey to California to hold myself accountable for this. To figure out where I stood on politics, on sexuality, of race and gender, if I wanted to go to college or not. I need to figure out all the things. And I needed freedom from everyone who mattered to me to figure out what mattered to me. I needed this to establish myself and my person.

Taking a big leap like moving across the country is not necessary to accomplish this same goal. And being young isn’t either; we can do this at any age. Many people get into a place later in life where they decide they have a point of view they want to live.

We are always entitled to change our minds, our views, and our opinions. And our feelings and ideas matter. Our feelings and ideas make a difference in the world. The only thing we do need to abandon is the idea that anyone else has the power to control our thoughts and beliefs.  

The best part about our mental is space is that it’s private. Not one single soul has access to our thoughts unless we give it to them. So play with this space. Try on all sorts of ideas. See which fit for you. Start slowly. Do this privately. But do this with the intention to create. To create what you ask? I don’t know and you may not know yet, either. However, if we give ourselves the freedom of thought to be anything and do anything, we will discover something we want to create.

Something that gets our head and heart back in the game of life.

So, scheduling time for ourselves can be difficult and establishing our own ideas and opinions can be intimidating, but nothing is harder than battling self-doubt. We can call this “self-doubt,” “limiting beliefs,” or “energy blocks.” We can call it whatever we want, but in the end, these are merely stories we make up in our head. Stories that are not true.

I am going to give you just a few examples of what I mean here, because this is a complex topic and our focus right now is to just draw your attention to the idea that you cannot allow yourself freedom of thought if you are concerned with the negative talk in your head.

Let’s say you get the idea to start a podcast. That’s EXCITING! Wow, you would really be putting yourself out there. How does the idea of this make you feel? The actual conception of the idea immediately lights you up! Because, you REALLY love, let’s say, being a birth doula, and you really want to share this with the world!! But uh oh, you snap that idea right back where it came from because the negative talk begins: I am not smart enough to figure out how to launch a podcast, there are people much more knowledgeable than me about being a birth doula, my voice is ugly, people won’t be interested in hearing about my life as a birth doula, people will laugh at me for wanting to do this, my friends and family will say this sounds like a stupid thing to do, I will look silly.

How many times have we thought we wanted to do something and a chain reaction of negative thoughts bombarded us?

Go ahead and acknowledge these negative ideas for a second, feel the weight of them, add some others that you know you have allowed to hold you back in the past. Maybe for you it is: I’m too old or young, I’m too fat or thin, I’m not attractive… I mean, these lists are always endless when our minds grasp at everything to keep us in our comfort zone!

I’m not asking you to let these doubts go, and that is simply because I’m not asking you to take action, yet. All I am asking you to do is acknowledge that they’re there, acknowledge that we all have them, and don’t let them prevent you from just dreaming and scheming. That’s all I am asking you to do: allow yourself to just consider the fun stuff without allowing the negativity to crowd it out.

Again, we do not need to share any of our thoughts with anyone right now if we choose not to, this is all just living inside us, but if we don’t give ourselves the mental space and freedom to be curious, to explore ideas that interest us, I fear we will never connect with ourselves in a way that brings true joy. We will continue to live the life others wish for us.

So, limiting beliefs are NOT allowed here in our mental space – we can do ANYTHING and think ANY WAY we want in our mental space.

The last thing I will say about mental space is that we need to prepare our mind to receive information. For now, all you need to do to do this is begin envisioning yourself BEING creative. SEE ideas flowing. KNOW that ideas will come. We will talk more about this later in the season. But, start here… simply envision this happening for you.

Now, what do I mean by “physical space”?

It’s just what is sounds like: a physical space that allows us room to think. A space where you feel physically comfortable. A place that is aesthetically pleasing to you. A space where you can sprawl out and experience unrestrained creativity.

You need to own this space. For me, it was the kitchen table to start. For you, it could be your car during lunch breaks! For someone else, maybe a sunroom or guestroom or their bedroom?

This space doesn’t have to be permanent, it just needs to be yours for your scheduled time.

What do you need to bring into this space that will get your juices flowing and help you discover your direction? That is specific to you. Something tells me that you know exactly what you need to bring into this space with you.

Listen, I am here to give you the steps I took to get passionate about life again, to reconnect with my purpose. I really wanted to feel excited again, to do something that felt important to me. I was driven to find this and it lead me back to you!

I want you to know that I continue to do all of the steps that I’m teaching you here, and that life has continued to unravel for me in a way I could never have fathomed. So, I hope you invest in yourself in this way to see what discoveries you can make.

I am going to leave you with some truth talk from me to you: You have all the answers. But if you are here with me now, you know something is missing and you know you need to simply uncover it. Take the deep dive into yourself. Don’t be lazy. You’re worth it and worthy, and you have barely scratched the surface of what this life has to offer you.

Remember, you Motivate Me!

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Description: We are teaching our bodies how to be. We train them when we’re active and we are training them when we’re not. So DECIDE what you want the rest of your days to look like and train your body accordingly.

MM536- Get Stretching into Your Life

Once I made the decision to go on a mission to aggressively seek myself and my passion again, I knew I had to do things that made me feel physically good. Things that would prevent later excuses, like aches and pains. Things that would engage my body. Things that would prepare my body for further physical engagement.

“Tech neck” is a real issue, and many of us have it from looking down at our phones and computers. And as a teacher, writer, and social media presence, this was a problem for me.

I had recently spent three days a week, two hours a day, for twelve weeks at a holistic therapy center where they helped me regain strength and flexibility in my neck, shoulders, and hips. I didn’t want to lose what I had started there, so in line with making myself a priority, I began doing the stretches I knew helped me most.

There is a quick video posted on my Motivate Me! with Lynette Renda Instagram and Facebook page of me doing some of the neck stretches I do each day. I highly recommend looking into stretches that target your problem areas. It’s insane how much better your body can feel when stretching for only ten minutes a day. My body no longer aches, even when spending all day and night reading and writing.

I call that a win!

For additional awesomeness for the body and the posture, I highly recommend previous show guest Blake Bowman from. He teaches stretches that are always in synch with what I’m experiencing. You can find him on Instagram or YouTube under @guerrillazen. I’ve never seen anyone so focused on posture. And he gives real techniques that you can implement immediately and use to work on your own problem areas.

Something fun that I do with my stretches is turn on music I don’t typically listen to. For me, it’s, “Alexa, shuffle 90’s R&B music.”

When doing your stretches, take your time. Focus on you, focus on the muscles you’re stretching, focus on your physical and mental wellness, as well as mindfulness.

Breathe in positivity. Breath out negativity. Feel the music. Feel the healing.

Come chat with me on social media! You can find me on Instagram and Facebook at Motivate Me! with Lynette Renda, and you can join our private Facebook group: Motivate Me! Support System to speak with me there.

If you are enjoying this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review… and share it with your friends if you know that they are working to get their mojo back, too!

I am going to leave you with some truth talk: The reality is that we are teaching our bodies how to be. We train them when we’re active and we are training them when we’re not. So DECIDE what you want the rest of your days to look like and train your body accordingly.

Remember, you Motivate Me!

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Description: Jump on board the Motivate Me! train this season to get your head and heart back in the game and reengage in life again. Try a challenge. Take a small step. Commit to doing something daily. Reinstate a small routine. Get engaged in something. Let it inspire you.

MM535- Taking on a 30-Day Challenge

Hello, everybody, and welcome to this week’s episode of Motivate Me!

It’s Me! Time where we are working on coming back from flat.

Before we start, let’s get into the right headspace. Let’s engage in the idea that this is “Me! Time” – where YOU are the priority.

Let’s sit in that idea for a second.

Let’s take two slow, deep breaths. Inhale some fresh air, exhale the old.

Understand that everything you want to do is only a decision away.

OK, let’s prepare for today’s focus.

Today’s Focus: Taking on a 30-Day Challenge

I’m not somebody who is normally big on taking challenges.

But when I was trying to work myself out of the funk I was in that was filled with negative self-talk and procrastination that never materialized, something as simple as a “New Year, New You” 30-Day Challenge really helped change my headspace.

To find the specific challenge I did by FabStory, you can visit my Motivate Me! with Lynette Renda Instagram, it’s posted there.

This challenge was just something fun that I committed to do daily for myself. To show myself that I could and would commit to something on a daily basis. Let’s remember, we were in the thick of the quarantine here, just coming off of the holidays with the second surge of Covid-19 and the new strain in full force. It was a very scary time.

My mindset was shaky, at this point. I was trying not to think about the fact that we couldn’t plan anything, that we had no future in sight. No vacations, no plays, no concerts. Not knowing when we would be able to go anywhere for the holidays or see family. And we had just moved out of state. I was afraid to go to a doctor’s appointment! Like everyone else, I was nervous about getting the virus, and I was sad and fearful for the people who had it or lost loved ones from it. The world was insane and there was fighting everywhere: in the streets, on the news, on social media.

And on top of all that, I felt guilty. Guilty because we weren’t suffering physically or financially. Guilty for being so down and not feeling like I had a right to be so down. I felt selfish feeling sad when other people were out their losing lives and businesses. The only thing that made me feel better about this was knowing that I was not alone; that so many of us were feeling the same way.

But, because of all of this, I was eating and drinking too much. I was watching too much television. Spending too much time on my phone. I could have been writing my book, but I wasn’t. I could have been walking, but I wasn’t even doing that. My groceries were being delivered, so I didn’t even get out and move around on those nice big shopping days that would always push my body a little.

Everyone else in my family had important jobs they were working from home doing, and my life had boiled down to making meals, doing dishes, and busying myself. Not what I was used to at all.

So, doing this simple 30-day challenge got me into doing different things, and it got me in the mindset that small steps were important. What’s funny is that I’m the type person that usually attacks things in one big bite, instead of several small ones. Doing anything slowly has always been torture for me, not recently, though. I was just dragging. This year slowed me down, waaay down, and this challenge helped pick me up again. 

Over Christmas, I had made a vow to reengage in life, and I had to start slowly to do that. So as last episode discusses, I started by making myself a priority. Then, I took responsibility for my own happiness, and I let go of feeling responsible for the happiness of others.

The challenge is what I did next and it gave me a little smattering of all sorts of things that I enjoy: “List what you are grateful for,” “Cook a healthy meal today,” “Pick up a new book to read,” “Message someone special,” and my favorite: “Eat pizza”! 

Something I chose to do was not look ahead to see what the following day would require of me, I let each day be a small surprise. The only day that didn’t work out well was on “Watch the sunrise” day! I also shared my daily challenge with my husband because it was fun to talk about what I was grateful for, what healthy meal I decided to make, what book I was reading, which special person I’d decided to message.”

So, this was my experience, but now we need to look into what speaks to you? There are many challenges you can do! Here are some ideas: exercise challenges, like abdominal workouts, burpees, or squats. There are also meditation challenges where you meditate so many minutes a day, or writing challenges where you write so many pages in a month, or even home decluttering and organizational challenges. There are also cooking challenges, weight loss challenges, quilting or knitting… all sorts of crafts. It’s endless.

I think you are getting the point. If you are jumping on board the Motivate Me! train this season, you are here to get your head and heart back in the game and reengage in life again. Try a challenge. Take a small step. Commit to doing something daily. Reinstate a small routine. Get engaged in something. Let it inspire you.

Whatever your interest, do something you find fulfilling, this will shift your energy and give you something to look forward to on a daily basis.

Listen, we are coming back from flat. We are doing it one day at a time, on our own time. Just keep reinforcing your mental and physical boundaries that make you a priority, and then make this daily commitment part of that. You got this, and I’m here for it.

Come chat with me on social media! You can find me on Instagram and Facebook at Motivate Me! with Lynette Renda, and you can join our private Facebook group: Motivate Me! Support System to speak with me there.

If you are enjoying this podcast, please subscribe and leave a review… and share it with your friends if you know that they are working to get their mojo back, too!

I am going to leave you with some truth talk: We can sit in victim energy where we blame the world for how we’re feeling, and we can deflect our personal responsibility for restoring our happiness. Or we can emerge from this situation a stronger, wiser version of ourselves that is hell-bent on being engaged and bettering the world.

I am on the other side now, I have the map, and I want to take you there!

Remember, you Motivate Me!

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Description: Discover seven techniques that will aid you on your quest to making yourself a priority, so you can get your head and heart back in the game to reclaim your passion!

MM534 – Making Yourself a Priority

Hello, everybody, and welcome to this week’s episode of Motivate Me!

It’s Me! Time where we are working on coming back from flat.

Before we start, let’s get into the right headspace. Let’s engage in the idea that this is “Me! Time” – where YOU are the priority.

Let’s sit in that idea for a second.

Let’s take two slow, deep breaths. Inhale some fresh air, exhale the old.

Understand that everything you want to do is only a decision away.

OK, let’s prepare for today’s focus.

Today’s Focus: Making Yourself a Priority

Some of us are more familiar with this idea than others. Some of us struggle with this more than others.

Let’s take a deep dive into what making yourself a priority looks like:

1. Decide and commit (Listen to this episode to hear what this looked like for me.)

2. Prepare Others and Require Support

3. Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness – But Not for Others

4. Envision Where and How You Will Make Yourself a Priority – this Includes Mental and Physical Space

5. Making Yourself a Priority is not Selfish – This is a Gift to Self and Others

6. Take Your Time: Create and Protect Your Mental and Physical Space

7. Set Boundaries to Gain Self-Respect and Prevent Resentment

Visit the motivatemepodcast.com website to get connected to our Motivate Me! with Lynette Renda Instagram or Facebook, as well as our private Facebook group: Motivate Me! Support Group. I would like to leave you with this final thought: Setting boundaries is a form of self-respect. When you respect yourself, so will others. This will not only make you feel valuable, it will help you find your value.

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Description: Bonus episode that shares the story of how the Motivate Me! team managed to travel the 50 states in ninety days interviewing people about passion. They used the Motivate Me! Action Plan to make this grand decision, learn about the action plan here!

MM533- 50 States in 90 Days Tour

This is a bonus episode that shares the story about how the Motivate Me! 50 States in 90 Days Tour idea came about, and how the team and crew pulled it off.

This episode is important because it helps listeners learn about Lynette, the trip, and the Motivate Me! Action Plan: Envision, Explore, Execute.

Listen for the full account, and then get ready to come back from flat with Lynette and all of her fellow motivators out there!

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