We Deserve to Be Who We’ve Always Been.

And chances are, you know exactly who that is. It’s the picture of yourself that’s burned into your memory. It’s that “thing” everyone always associates with you. Listen to an excerpt from the book Lynette wrote and is trying to get published that tells the story of how John and Lynette met, that shows that who they’ve been is who they still are. Listen in and explore further what this means for you. 

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It’s hard staying committed to a big goal when the work is isolating. The conversation with John continues as we talk about the gift of tough love. 

If you’re working toward something meaningful, this episode is a reminder that finding the right support system can make all the difference in seeing your vision through.

Let’s get into it. 

 #Motivation #Inspiration #Passion #Podcast #Writing

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What happens when someone you love feels called to something big — and you’re the one asked to support it?

Welcome to Motivate Me! with Lynette Renda. In today’s episode, my husband joins me for an honest conversation about the vision behind my journey to travel 50 states in 90 days and the book that came from it.

We talk about how the idea was born, his role in bringing it to life, and the very real fears and concerns he had about me leaving on a long journey — especially with two women I didn’t know at the time.

This episode is for anyone chasing a big dream, loving someone who is, or trying to balance faith, fear, and purpose in real life.

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Come get schooled in feeling flat! See who has the key, learn easy techniques to reclaim your passion, and set the expectation that you will.

MM563 – Saying Goodbye to Season 4!

Hello, everybody, and welcome to this week’s episode of Motivate Me! Our final episode of Season 4!

It’s Me! Time here on Motivate Me! and we are working on coming back from flat.

Before we start, let’s get into the right headspace. Let’s engage in the idea that this is time where YOU are the priority. Let’s take two slow, deep breaths to get us centered. Just follow me.

Today’s focus is: Saying Goodbye to Season 4!

So what’s really crazy is that I sat down to write a journal entry reflecting back on this season of Motivate Me! and all my brain wanted to do was talk about where I’m headed, instead of where I’ve been.

I had to pause my journal entry to write out some goals on a separate sheet of paper because I was too excited and distracted. My goals are for the book I’ve been wanting to write about traveling the fifty states in ninety days interviewing people about passion. During that journal entry I got the idea to set a goal to have my first draft done by New Year’s Day.

I broke down the word count and it’s totally achievable.

As you know, I began to fall flat after completing our trip of traveling the fifty states in ninety days interviewing people about passion. First, I was flat because I wanted to write about the trip but I struggled to find my value, and next, it was the pandemic.

It was January 2021 when my family gave me the kind of tough love that makes you work hard to better yourself. And so, I began doing that. I utilized everything I’d learned in my personal study, in my coaching program, and in the almost 450 interviews I’d done over the seasons of Motivate Me! I dug in deep and I was able to get my head and heart back in the game. I was able to reclaim my passion – which brought me back here to you.

I’m going to share here the list of techniques that helped me. There’s an episode focused on each of these techniques here in Season 4. So if you would like details and examples of how to use them, you can check out the episode.

When looking at these steps, know that you can do them in the order I did or in an order of your design. You can do all, or some, of them. The goal is for you to determine what you need and just head in that direction.

I will say, if some of these seem out of your comfort zone or something you’ve never enjoyed, like reading or journaling, please just try it. When was the last time you read or wrote? My suggestions in the episodes of how to read or journal or stretch, etc. may be different from what you remember – or maybe you’re different these days?

OK, so here’s a list of each of the steps I took to reclaim my passion. There are 29 steps total, some are less time consuming than others, so don’t be overwhelmed by this list.  After incorporating these into my life, I was a new person. I feel like I sound like a commercial when I say this, but doing this changed me in only two weeks. Like, two weeks later I experienced euphoria! I was happy, I was excited – I had a clear direction! I had reclaimed my passion!

1. I made myself a priority

2. I took part in a fun 30-day challenge to start committing to something daily

3. I started stretching

4. I prepared mental and physical space where I could be a thinker

5. I rested my body and soul

6. I improved my diet

7. I meditated

8. I journaled with the intention to seek answers 

9. I gathered creative materials to start to build my creative ideas

10. I read books and was an open-minded reader

11. I collected and organized my creative ideas

12. I opened myself up to feedback from others

13. I emotionally detached myself from the lives of others

14. I refused to feel selfish

15. I unplugged from technology

16. I got my blood pumping

17. I experimented with my craft (which for me is writing)

18. I took a small action

19. I connected with my people

20. I got more creative materials

21. I allowed myself to be vulnerable

22. I said no to negativity

23. I bailed on perfectionism

24. I battled fear and nixed excuses

25. I aligned to my life purpose

26. I took a big action

27. I embraced collaboration

28. I learned how to access flow state

29. I created an action plan

Like I said, these topics are the focus areas of each of Season 4’s episodes. If you’re just joining us, I suggest you start from Episode 532, the “Welcome to Season 4!” Episode

For whatever reason, you’re feeling flat right now, or you’re searching for something right now, or you’re trying to bounce back from some sort of life experience right now. There is a reason you are here with me right now. Maybe it’s just because you know there’s more to life than your current circumstance. I have to believe that you’re right: there is happiness and excitement and challenge and meaningful experiences.

And if you feel you’re missing out of any of this, I’m here for you. I understand you. I have provided you with actionable steps to help you. I know where the power to change this is – it is all within you. You just need to claim responsibility for it!

I don’t believe that we’re here to just exist. I believe we’re here to love each other and we’re here to learn lessons.

Think bigger picture.

Wayne Dyer describes our time here as being directed like a game of chess by a higher power. That we are just pieces in a game being moved around to impact each other. Whether we are helping each other or hurting each other, we are learning from each other.

What would it hurt to approach life like a game? To challenge ourselves and to seek victory?

We would love to hear your thoughts. Join us in our Private Facebook group: Motivate Me! Support System and checkout MotivateMePodcast.com for anything else.

I am going to leave you with some truth talk from me to you: I really appreciate you spending your valuable time with us. I have really enjoyed my time with you. I am sending you all the love. I am sending you all the wishes that you are able take a step back from your life in order to focus on you – to make you the priority.

I know that you have it in you to envision, explore, and execute the life of your dreams.

I’ll be rooting for you.  

Remember, you Motivate Me!

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Hello, everybody, and welcome to this week’s episode of Motivate Me!

It’s Me! Time here on Motivate Me! and we are working on coming back from flat.

Before we start, let’s get into the right headspace. Let’s engage in the idea that this is time where YOU are the priority. Let’s take two slow, deep breaths to get us centered. Just follow me.

Today’s focus is: Create an Action Plan

So, when I began the process of creating this podcast, I had some really important things to figure out: what will my show be about? What am I about? How will I use my new professional coaching certification to help people? I had learned the kind of information in my coaching program that you can’t just un-know, if you know what I mean? And I wanted to share it with people. I wanted to use it to help people.

In Episode 558 of this season, I talk about how to uncover your life purpose. That was my first step in the creation process of this show. I needed to do a deep dive into who I was and discover what I believed my purpose to be before I could move forward. In Episode 558, I walk through that process with you, so you can do the same for yourself.

I discovered that my purpose is to empower others. OK, I thought, how can I live in my purpose while using my coaching knowledge? One of the greatest points I learned in my certification process is that we all have the answers we need; we just need to learn how to uncover those answers. And that in order for people to buy-in to change, it has to be their idea. My job as a coach is not to roll into your life to tell you what you need to do; a coach’s job is to roll into your life to ask you the right questions that will help you determine what you need to do.

Nobody knows you better than you. Nobody knows what’s best for you better than you. Especially the people in your life who try to tell you they do. Chances are those people are trying to control you or control the direction you take in life. Sometimes people do this with the best intentions, sometimes not, but either way, this is your decision to make.

Getting back to when I started this podcast, it was with the intention to help the masses. I wanted to help people live a life that was more exciting or more meaningful than their current one. And, to me, that meant passion. I wanted to help people discover or rediscover their passion, because I felt so many of us were not living lives we were passion about. We were just existing.

Since I knew that people have to make their own discoveries, I devised a Motivate Me! plan. I thought, if I interview guests who are living exciting and meaningful lives, living their passion, then our listeners can learn from them in a non-threatening way. Listeners could then apply what they’ve learned to their own lives in a way that works for them.

One of my favorite examples of this is show guest Chris Nordhaus. Long story short, Chris was blindsided by a divorce. His passion had always been sport cars, and he had an old one in the garage he would tinker with. Chris, ultimately, recovered from his divorce by buying himself a brand new Camaro and joining a Camaro club. The greatest part about his story is how he rebuilt his life through an old, rekindled passion.

In a short time, he made friends outside of those that were a part of his marriage, he was taking road trips around the country to places like Sturgis, South Dakota, and he became part of the board of the club. He leaned into his passion and he used his passion to recreate his life.

Similarly, when show guest Karen Babb Newhall was going through her divorce, she taught herself how to train Border Collies to herd sheep. When she got good at it, she started a business training other dogs and she has since built a Border Collie rescue on her farm.

I think these are fantastic examples of how someone going through a divorce can hear these stories, consider their own passion, and pull from the practices of both of these show guests.

This is why I started my show, then I thought it would be amazing to interview people in each of the United States. If you’d like to hear a detailed account of how that idea was conceived and carried out, you can check out Episode 533. So we did that, we traveled the fifty states in ninety days interviewing people about passion, me and two women I hired whom I’d never met.

All of this brings us to where we are today – coming back from flat together. And while listening to the experiences of others can be a powerful and informative eye-opener, it means nothing if we don’t act.

Motivate Me!’s foundation is based on an action plan. It’s based on the formula I use to make my own decisions, to take my own actions. And I’m going to share this with you today with the hope that you will write this down and fill in your own blanks.

This action plan is based on three basic steps that are determined by your unique person and passion. The three steps are Envision, Explore, Execute. I’m going to explain each one and give you ideas on how to utilize each.

Action #1 is to Envision

Let’s say your passion is teaching. You’ve always enjoyed being class mom, the cheerleading coach, helping your kids with their homework and projects. But you find yourself in your thirties or forties and you don’t know if it’s too late to start a college career? You try to talk yourself out of it. You know it will cost money, it will take your time and attention away from your family, and you don’t even know if you have what it takes to be a college student. You don’t know if you’re smart enough?

It’s at this point in the process you need to envision yourself doing the thing. See yourself working in a school. How does that feel? What are you wearing? What does your classroom look like? What does it smell like? What do your students look like? How old are they? What subject are you teaching? How do your shoes sound when walking down the corridor? What are you holding in your hands? See yourself designing lesson plans and grading papers. How does this feel to you? See yourself managing home-life. Are you sitting at the kitchen table doing “homework” with your kids – you grading and them working?

Envision how this impacts the people in your world. Do you see a paycheck coming in that’s contributing to the family in a way you couldn’t before? Do your kids have a new perspective on the importance of education? Do you see yourself off from school when your kids are – during breaks, holidays, and snow days? Do you feel proud of yourself for accomplishing a teaching degree? Do you have more to contribute to the family conversation at dinner? Is your partner looking at you a little differently?

How does this vision feel?

Action #2 is to Explore

Wow, OK, you didn’t talk yourself out of this yet. Nice! You want to take the next step and just explore what it would take to make this teaching thing happen. The Explore step is research. It does not cost a penny to explore your options. You could make a list of three or five or ten possibilities for yourself, and comparing them is probably not a bad idea!

But there are things you need to know before making this decision. Is there a teaching certification program near you? Go to the school site, compare the programs, look at the course descriptions. Does this degree interest you? How much does it cost? What does the schedule look like? Do you need to take an entrance exam? Is there a way to prepare for the entrance exam? Do you need childcare or to carpool with friends? Do you need to work around a current job? Is this feasible? Can you make it work? What obstacles will you need to address?

Action #3 is to Execute

If you are at this step, good for you! You have decided just to take that first step towards getting your teaching degree. You may not be ready to sign up for the whole enchilada, but maybe you are ready to schedule yourself for the entrance exam. Maybe the results of that exam will give you the confidence you need to take the next step – or maybe it will inform your decision to abort this mission. It’s OK. It’s a small fee and a little time to figure out if this is your path. So you do it, you register for the entrance exam – step one taken!

Next, you reach out to friends and see if anyone can tell you more about how to prepare for the entrance exam. You borrow the book from a friend and study like you never remember studying before. You take the test. You know the result of this exam will be the deciding factor, and when you open the results and see that you’ve passed, you know there is no stopping you now.

You have made the decision to go for that teaching degree! And all you need to decide next is whether to start slowly with one class, or come fast out of the gate and take a full course load.

Envision, Explore, Execute.

We would love to hear your thoughts. Join us in our Private Facebook group: Motivate Me! Support System and checkout MotivateMePodcast.com for anything else.

I am going to leave you with some truth talk from me to you: We have talked in many episodes about all the things we allow to hold us back. Not today. Today we are only focusing on those things that will move us forward. So, pull from the experiences of others, see that you deserve the same or better, and figure out what and how you need to do that. And most importantly, take that action – you are worth it!

Remember, you Motivate Me!

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How do you know when you are in “flow state”? What is “relaxed awareness” and what’s its connection to the creative process? Learn about all of this, as well as how to conjure up your flow and how it is connected to serving others.

MM561- Find Your Flow State

Hello, everybody, and welcome to this week’s episode of Motivate Me!

It’s Me! Time here on Motivate Me! and we are working on coming back from flat.

Before we start, let’s get into the right headspace. Let’s engage in the idea that this is time where YOU are the priority. Let’s take two slow, deep breaths to get us centered. Just follow me.

Today’s focus is: Find Your Flow State

Wow. Flow State. Have you ever been so engrossed in what you’re doing that you’ve lost track of time? Have you ever been so involved in something that you’ve forgotten to eat? Has sleep ever become unimportant to you, and all you wanted was uninterrupted time with whatever it is you were working on? Maybe you were making a painting or a quilt or a webinar or remodeling a room?

You may think that achieving flow state is a freak thing that only happens to the chosen, but I believe there are actionable steps you can take to encourage flow state.

If you don’t know my story or what inspired this season of Motivate Me!, I suggest going back and listening to the first episode: Episode 532. Part of my story is that I’d been divorced from flow state for a few years, but then in an event that I discuss in Episode 532, I was inspired to aggressively seek myself again. To get my head and heart back in the game. Finding my flow is what brought me back to you. I became excited again. I started creating again. I wanted to help others again. And this is what I want for you.

Before we move forward, let’s get a clear definition of what “flow state” is. Stick with me here, because gaining this new understanding was an enlightening experience for me, and I’m hoping it will be the same for you.

Many of the guided meditations I do are preceded with spiritual teachings, something I really enjoy. One of my favorite meditations is by Mindvalley and its titled, “A Relaxing Guided Meditation to Boost Creativity.” (You can find it on YouTube.) It’s here that I heard a definition of “flow state” that resonated with me. The meditation guide said that to be in “flow” simply means to be in a state of relaxed awareness.

OK. But, what does “relaxed awareness” mean? If “relaxed” means to “know without doubt,” and “awareness” means “knowing that you are not and never will be alone.” That “you are aware of the help and guidance of a higher power.” Then “relaxed awareness” means that you know without doubt that you are not alone, and you are aware that you’re being guided by a higher power.

This is a pretty deep definition. But, as a writer, I have to tell you that I’ve experienced this. Writers are always looking to find solutions when writing stories. How best to show their audience without directly telling them? How best to move the plot forward? How best to describe characters indirectly without just listing details? It’s much more interesting to find out that a character has an addiction when the writer describes the bottle of pills that fell out of her purse, rather than simply stating it.

I have sat back in my chair while writing or jumped in the shower or taken a walk to get distance from my work, so the answer would “come to me.” It may not be not right away, but the answer always comes… sometimes even in my sleep. I have always believed that these answers come from a higher power, and I know I’m not alone in this.

So the idea of relaxed awareness and its definition in the meditation track struck me because it’s an understanding I have, and have had, for some time. Relaxed awareness is faith in the creative process, simply put.

Have you ever felt an energy shift when you’re working on something? An excitement and a knowing that everything will work out the way it’s meant to? A knowing that you will find the answers and resolutions you’re seeking for your project? A knowing that you are not creating alone, that you are being guided?

Have you ever felt the energy that comes from that kind of belief? That kind of faith?

How about when we used to watch Michael Jordan play basketball when he was “in the zone.” Where he couldn’t miss a shot. Did you see that game where he closed his eyes on the foul shot line and made the basket anyway, as if to say to the other team that he was “in the zone,” and “on fire,” and that he was untouchable. That was a great moment. Man, I miss Michael Jordan!

But in other news, other athletes and scientists, artists and entrepreneurs – all people – experience being in flow state. The question is: Can we capture this and can we control it? I am here to tell you that the answer is yes.

This whole season of Motivate Me! has been about the individual steps I took to reclaim my passion. I suggest trying every technique I’ve shared with you this season, but here is a list that is a big picture perspective geared solely towards conjuring up flow state.

1. Still the chatter in the mind to let ideas surface (through meditation or exercise or prayer or sleep or reading)

2. Explore ideas that surface through journaling (journal seeking answers)

3. Refrain from passing judgement on new ideas (be open minded)

4. Express gratitude (be thankful for everything: the new day, your home, love, everything)

5. Give of yourself to others as much as possible (a call, a text, a tip, a donation, a compliment)

6. Be relentless in steps 1-5

I did all of these things, and when I felt or thought something, I sat down and journaled. When I couldn’t figure out what I was feeling, I sat down and journaled… and immediately ideas came and solutions came.

I continued to do the other steps I talk about over this season, like give myself freedom of thought and physical space to create… and it happened.

It took some time, but in a matter of weeks, I began to feel the flutter of passion. People, for the first time in about four years I felt passion! And not only that, I began to see what I needed to do next on my path – and I couldn’t do it fast enough. I came to see that I was in flow.

I have had many conversations with people who don’t know what their passion is, and I have always wanted to find a concrete way to help them find it. Understanding how I could help others was the big revelation I made when doing what I’m suggesting here. Understanding how I could help others is what put me into flow.

So find what you can do to help others. Aggressively seek this answer. That is where flow state lives.

We would love to hear your thoughts. Join us in our Private Facebook group: Motivate Me! Support System and checkout MotivateMePodcast.com for anything else.

I am going to leave you with some truth talk from me to you: We have interviewed almost 450 people about passion. Every single one connects back to how we can serve others. Every. Single. One. Finding your connection to this using the steps we talk about here and the steps we’ve provided this season will help you discover this. And when you do, you will be so on fire that you’ll be looking to purchase a “Don’t Talk to Me I’m in Flow” T-shirt.

No… I don’t know if anyone is really making flow T-shirts, but if you find one, let me know!

Being passionate about doing something that will serve others is the answer.

Remember, you Motivate Me!

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